I am a very busy woman. My job requires that I do an excessive amount of work and home. Paper grading has essentially destroyed my social life.
Also, unlike many of my age peers, I became a mom quite late in life (age 37) and still have a young son, not anywhere close to high school graduation. He's autistic, which requires a lot of time.
Those two factors led me to sign up at a couple of on-line "dating" sites. I have to say, I am not impressed. One site is a paid site and I have not gotten one date from it. I am going to cancel my subscription to it and save a few bucks a month. The other site is a freebie and it's like the Wild West.
I had no idea how many young (by young, I mean 25-30) men harbored older women/teacher fantasies. I have received more than a dozen messages from men in that age range. I am charmed and flattered. Sadly, these gentlemen have no idea how to actually communicate with women.
First on all, they are pretty quick to want to text message. I feel like texting is the new first base. That's because getting a woman to text a picture is clearly the new second base. Not that the picture sharing is a one way street. I have received one too many pictures of half naked (and very muscular) torsos - taken in the bathroom mirror. Of course, they want a picture, equally naked, in return. This is when our conversations come to a crashing halt. I won't send that kind of picture. Perhaps if we had been dating for a while and I wanted to get him worked up a bit, I could see myself willing to send a raunchy picture.
I don't want to make any hasty generalizations, but I find this race to raunch disheartening. I like sex, but the men who are trying to contact me seem to be missing out on the beautiful dance involved in human intimacy. They seem to want porn at their finger tips and to make no intellectual connection. Why not agree to meet for coffee and then see if there's a spark? I don't get it. Is this a generational issue? I cannot compare because very few men my age have contacted me.
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On line is the worst way to meet men. All you will find are losers that can't have a relationship with a live woman. I speak of those that I know are on-line. BTW, many of them are more likely children (or women) pretending to be men. Anyone can send a picture. My advice is loosen up with single men you know. Flirt a little in the grocery store. I always advise my grandsons to be bold and always talk to strange women. Today, that applies to women too.
Oh, and ditch those papers. My daughter and her sons always had papers graded in class. You have too much to do without working for free at home. Looking over the numbers or essays at home is OK. You want to be fair to the kids, but don't be a doormat for the administration.
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